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Monday, October 3, 2011
Monday
Write one or two fully developed paragraphs in response to one of the following prompts. Post your responses as comments below this post. Interact with each other's thoughts. The deadline is class time Wednesday/Thursday.
A real man is a male that will step up to the plate and pay his child support and take full responsibility for his actions. Men are suppose to be gentlemen and treat women with respect instead of always just looking to have sex with a woman not knowing the consequences that lay ahead. I feel that the man should be at the head of the house, the one bringing home the majority of the income, and know how to manage time with the family and the boys. The women do all the cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids, and all the other errands so really the women aren't asking for too much. The men should also be better communicators and if they can't communicate with their spouse quite well counseling is not a bad option. Men have to be able to tell the women what's on their mind but also have to know how to deal with the women when they start expressing their emotions and feelings. I know no women wants a bum who does nothing but develop a beer gut, hang out with the boys all the time, and watches sports 24/7. Women want men who are going to look beyond sex appeal; they want a man whose going to be there through the good and bad. A relationship thats going to last, women don't want no players and pimps, they want a man that is the total package. If a man looks handsome, has a college education, a stable job, no kids from previous marriage or from messing around he can expect to find himself a good woman and they woman can expect to find a man worthy enough to be called her husband.
From the outside, an unsung hero. From the one who knows him best, the world. Selflessness without any thought of reward. Why does he do what he does? He doesn’t have to, true, but he has learned that what and who you love is not always easy. In fact, he knows that it shouldn’t be easy, and if it is always a dream come true, something isn’t right. He has figured out that the one who matters most to him is right beside him. But he has also realized that the most important thing to his life is something untouchable, and only accessible through Faith: his Creator. What else could he ask for? He has found what he loves to do in life and pursued it to the fullest. He has also put all the praise on Him throughout his career. Word: a thing that he lives by, in more than one sense. Sure he lives by his word and it is something that has come from years of discipline, but he also lives by His Word, and that too has come from many years of discipline and failed attempts. The difference between these two is that ultimately the second one holds key to his life and who He wants him to be. Fail at the first one, and you can regain that respect many times with many people. Fail at the second one, and you also can gain back the love and respect, but you only have your lifetime to realize that it’s not a joke, and it’s the difference of eternity. He knows his opinion, he knows why he holds that opinion, and he won’t easily be shaken from this opinion. This same principle also holds in his Faith. He knows who he is, no questions asked. No one messes with the four things that he loves most, three of which he created. He has learned what responsibility is, he has also taught it, with great effects. In a certain opinion he is a fortress where those four things can take refuge. And in many ways this is identical to how He is a Concrete Foundation, however He is not a Fortress for just four things, but millions. Including this man. This is where he finds his refuge and strength. Without that Fortress, he cannot mimic and base his own fortress. He knows very well that it is the little things in life that hold the most significance. The things that are unnoticeable, and remain unnoticeable. He knows he could bring them up to be noticed, but what would that do? Give him credit, yeah. But why does he need it. He already has everything he wants and needs. He is strong, and he also has muscles. He is wise, but he also went to college. He is not dumb, but he can’t create software for microsoft. He is a man, he is who He wants and planned for him to be.
A man is well-balanced in all areas of life, and knows thed true meaning of sacrifice. Teaches his kids what is wrong and what is right depending on the situation or circumstances. He upholds strong morals and beliefs but is not shallow minded a out different viewpoints. A man can possibly be seduced, but easily fooled when his manhood is on the line. A man doesn't live by how others , but do take others into consideration. He loves his hobbies , but they are not what drive his life, he knows when to say no and is not a victim if peer pressure,because peer pressued is such a shameful adolescent. A man knows how to ha ve fun and incorporate everyone around him into his enjoyment. A man knows how to handle business not jusf effectiveliy but professionally.
A woman can be many things- a mother, a wife, a daughter, a child, loved; on the other hand she can also be single, no children, unloved, or any combination. However, what makes a woman, not a girl or a poser, is her ability to be what is demanded of her. When a child is sick, that mother is a nurse. When a friend is hurting, a woman is there for them. In regards to ambition, a woman is someone who can put aside her own wants and needs for someone else. In my own personal experience, a woman sacrifices her own health and well-being for that of her child and asks for nothing else in return. She is silent, but it is through her love, adoration, and commitment that I learned what it meant to be a true woman. I can only hope that my children will one day look to me and see the same qualities, and speak about me the same way.
A woman is someone who holds the qualities of a caretaker, a leader, and a respectable person. A real woman will always put someone else above herself and will never take anything for granted. She will always be truthful and trustworthy, and someone for others to depend on. Respect is something that is earned, and holding these traits is how a woman earns respect from others. A real woman will go out of her way to ensure that she holds these traits, because earning respect of others will always be important to her. A woman will always be a leader for her children and will be the best person she can be for them, no matter what. Ambition drives real women to be this way, because they strive for excellence and are determined to fit all of these characteristics. A real woman will always want to be looked up to and liked, which is why they will always hold these qualities and be the best they can be.
“Real” women can be hard to find in our society today. A real woman is someone who is compassionate, caring, loyal, and faithful. Real women don’t follow in someone else’s footsteps, but creates their own. She doesn’t back down from challenges, but tackles them head-on and to the best of her ability. Instead of blaming others, she accepts the blame for her own mistakes and learns from them. A real woman creates morals that she lives by and respects, not caving in to any temptations surrounding her. Too many women in this world today rely on their significant other for complete support, but I think women should be able to stand on their own two feet, most of the times, because they are of no lesser value than men. It is essential to take responsibility for your own actions, whether it be preparing for a test, or taking care of your children. If the woman is married, she should respect her husband and help their relationship grow. When I’m older, I hope my children will see these qualities in me, and use that to teach their children how to be “real” women.
To be a man means to be many things. It doesn’t mean to have lots of money and be someone that the women like. Physical characteristics may make you look older but mental characteristics make someone a man. A man is someone that defines himself not by his social status but by his actions. Those actions have to be ones not of things trying to improve his status but of how he reacts to issues of importance. A real man cares for his family and friends. He works in order to support himself and his family. He may or may not have a lot of money but if he does he doesn’t show it in front of others. A real man doesn’t use women for sex but finds a life partner with one. He not only respects his significant other but also his mother and any other woman that he comes to contact with. A real man deals respect the way he would like to receive it. He sets examples for his children to become better people and if he has one or multiple sons, he shows and guides them in the right direction of becoming a real man. He is loyal and honest while being able to be relaxed. A real man values things that have no numerical value. Real men are respected by others and that respect is earned from them. Real men can be strong and though on the outside but have feelings inside that they value. A real man doesn’t believe that men can’t cry, he is the one that cries when he has the feelings that he believes are necessary to cry.
I will be the one secure enough to describe the opposite gender.
A real woman is someone who takes care of the family and keeps them together. Women are natural caregivers, it is their maternal instinct to do so. Women are generally more understanding and easier to deal with. A real woman is not afraid to admit that she is wrong because she doesn't want to be right, she just wants what's best for everyone else. I do not, nor will I ever know what it is like to be a woman and I am thankful for that because being a real woman is 10 times harder than being a real man. Real women are not appreciated enough so us men have lowered our standards as to what a real woman is. I personally will be marrying the realest woman out there. So, to all of you girls who want to become real women. Be kind, caring, and honest. You shall go far.
What is a man from a woman's point of view? What does a woman want in a man? A man is someone that is resolute and focused on his future. He is someone who listens to a woman's feelings and can always give advice. He is someone who is respectful towards us and thinks of others before himself. A man should never degrade us; for women and men are all the same. We experience life and the world together; so why put us down? A man should also lead an example for the future generation. When he has kids, the kids should be able to look up to him like a super hero. He should have confidence in himself and not give up after any failed attempts. And yes, a real man would take full responsibility for any consequences that occur. If he tries something new, he should not quit if situations are too difficult to continue. He should finish what he starts by the ambition he possesses. Additionally, women want love and romance from them. Some men don’t seem to understand that. Being a gentleman is rarely seen in this day in age, but that is what women are looking for. What happened to the knights in shining armor? The chivalrous cavaliers that rescued fair maidens? Women want to be rescued from reality; they want a strong figure to keep them steady. Someone to trust, someone they know that won’t judge them for who they are.
In my opinion, there is a major difference in being a woman and a real woman. A real woman is someone who is strong enough to stand up for something she wants, but humble enough to help others in need. A real woman can admit when she is wrong even if it kills her. A woman should not be completely dependent on a man. She should be able to provide for herself without having to rely on what a man does. Yes, having a man by her side is a great thing, but when he is not a real man, as mentioned above, and leaves her, she should be able to continue on without him. A real woman is not catty. She is solid in her thought and won’t gossip. She will leave that to the girls. In the view of those who’s opinion matters, a woman should be viewed as caring, a provider, and selfless. They may not want to, but they will do work for others without expecting anything in return. In most cases they work without receiving even a “thank you”. To children, she would be a mother. Someone who they can always go to, and trust that even if they may not like what she has to say, she has the best for them in mind. Someone who would take the blame if need be. Ambition frequently clouds the idea of what a real woman should be. When faced with all of the supermodels and actresses, some girls want to be just like them. However, for most of those girls, beauty is only skin deep. A woman should be respected not only for her looks, but for who she is. She should be viewed as someone who is something other than a shallow corps of a person. She should be able to set her own ambitions aside, for the betterment of her family, or others. I honestly hope that one day I can grow up to be half the woman my mother is, because to me, she is the ideal image for a real woman.
A real woman is someone who can be going through the roughest of times, yet she still maintains grace, elegance and strength through it all. A real woman is someone who knows when to care for someone when they need it, and to love a person like her Creator has loved her. She knows when to fight for what she believes in, but does it in a manner that is nothing less than classy. She never lets the smallest things ruin her and she gains strength at her weakest moments. A real woman is one who knows full and well that she doesn't need a man to give her confidence or self worth and knows the real meaning of beauty has nothing to do with looks. To the opinions of those who matter, women need to be like this so that they can set an example for the generations to come because society has killed the real meaning of a woman. A real woman is not someone whose only place is behind her husband, and that their beauty only matters on outward adornment. If I ever have children, and one of them is a girl, I would never want them to feel like being beautiful is just on the outside and that she has to spend the rest of her life after her wedding day being in the shadow of a man. We as women are far more than that. I come from a family of great, fearless and strong women, but none compare, in my opinion, to my own mother. She's raised me to believe that I am more than what society has told me I should be, and that I am beautiful no matter what people say. She's cared for me like a nurse when I was sick, or a counselor when I needed someone to talk to. She stood up for me like any mother should, but she did it respectfully and with class. Just recently, my mother has taught me who a real woman is when they face hard times. The man she was married to for thirty years left her, and she had every right to be weak and only care for herself, but she remained strong. She nurtured and comforted her two children as we had to face this too, and she kept her composer and had faith through it all. She lived life without a man before she married my father, and she knows full and well that she can go on in life without a man again. She could've easily given up on everything, but instead she kept moving on. My mother is a living example of a real woman, and she inspires me more than words can even describe. I strive to be a real woman like her one day, and to raise my daughters, granddaughters, and great granddaughters to be real women as well.
The idealistic image of what a real man is, is one that has been created by the current society. "Real" men are those whom follow the few, heroic like characteristics that to the observer, fills that manly silhouette. This task seems quite easy, but these characteristics are hard to achieve. When describing a real man, the shadow of a masculine figure with big muscles, courage, and a hardwired unwilling preparedness to control the situation when times turn dull comes to mind. Todays perception of a real man is vastly different for each individual, thanks to the different ways we are taught, but what is a real man to me? A real man should rise above the situation, conquer it, and still save the herion in distress. "Real" men reflect the perfect human, something that rarely exists in todays world. This type of man is the one everyone trusts, loves, and looks up to. His only intentions are for good and the advancement of others. This guy is what every other man wants to be. This "real" man is seen only in stories, comic books, and with rare examples in the past. The title of a real man in my opinion, is one very hard to truly receive. Many try to claim being one, but until they display the acts of a real man, they are not one. The hardest part for a men to achieve this postion is fighting their own wants and needs. Real men do not think about themselves, but instead those whom they can help. Their decision making is perfect because it must be. If not, when the time comes the "real" man shell cracks to pieces revealing the wimpy want to be man, deep inside. Not all men have the ability to be a real man, but some do. These abilities must be searched for, found, then perfected to be modeled into a true man. Then can you claim this high role, as the real man you have become.
You who have paid tribute to your mothers and fathers should show them your comments. They're like teachers, only more so. They don't require your gratitude to love you, but they really appreciate it when they get it.
A real woman is someone who is hard to describe. As time changes the ideas of what a woman should be like will change too. In Shakespeare’s time a real woman was someone who did nothing but the cooking, cleaning and caretaking. They were expected to stand by their husbands and nothing else. The woman of that time were more of just a figure, they kept to themselves, and rarely spoke their opinions. These real women were considered to be less than a man. As the time went on women spoke for the same rights as men. More than what was ever imagined was accomplished. A real woman will be seen different from the eyes of everyone. But, for me, a real woman is not someone of the typical stereotype, of being considered less than a man. A real woman won’t be talked down upon. A real woman is someone that anyone can rely on. A real woman is someone who people can look up too. When someone is a real woman their opinions will be respected by others. When a person is able to balance between voicing her own opinions and taking in the opinions of others, to me is when they become a woman. People end up either voicing their opinions too much or not enough. It would be nice to think that my children will one day think of women in the same way. That they will look up to me the same way that I look up to my mom now. Hopefully the ideas of what a real woman should be will not change too much, but I am sure that the men during Shakespeare’s time were thing the same thing. Ambition makes me think more of a woman. I see real woman as people who have ambition. The real women strive to do something different. But at the same time they are still aware of their actions. A real woman is someone that I would like to be when I am older.
Like Laine said about a real woman, a "real" man is hard to find in today's world. Today, there are two views, a man is either perfect in every way like someone out of the movies or they are misogynistic, slobbingly, and lazy. Both these views are there for a reason but neither of them are "real" men. I agree with Israel 100%; a real man is someone who takes care of his family no matter what. A real man should be responsible for his actions, good or bad. A real man should not be content to stagnate in mind and body; they should always be trying to better themselves and their family. They should be be fake and a liar; honesty is entirely necessary. Whether it is working out some domestic or workplace issue, a man should always own up to his mistakes and be honest to others. Others should be able to tell if a male is a man if they are strong-willed and dependable. A man should never be flaky and should do what he says he is going to do when he said he was going to do it. A man should never back down, especially when it comes to defending his family, unless it is entirely reasonable to do so. Others should view a real man as intelligent, not book-smart intelligent, but just with it. They should be able to hold a conversation, even with strangers, just to be polite. A man should be everything to his children. He should be their protector, their best friend, their discipliner, their mentor. A real man should never abandon his children for any reason. A real man should teach his children what he knows so that they may one day surpass him. He should protect and punish when necessary in order to teach his kids a good moral code. He should also always be there when they need an ear to talk to, no matter the subject. As I already said, a man should not be content to stagnate and that goes along with ambition. A man with ambition is simply an empty shell, or worse a shell filled with the wrong things. I believe a real man should strive to be better, strive to provide for his family, and strive for them to be better. A real man is what I hope to be someday.
A real woman is a woman that is a daughter, a friend, maybe even a wife or mother. A real woman is a woman that can step up to the plate and be what she is needed to be at that moment. Like Eliza said whether she needs to be the doctor when her child is sick, a friend to someone that is hurting or going through a time of need, or being a dedicated wife and standing by her husband and helping him succeed. In the mist of all those things she still continues to do the things that make her happy with a smile on her face. That may be going out to dinner with friends or just catching that latest movie. That could also be spending quality time with her family. What separates a woman from a poser, or a girl is being able step aside and put away selfish wants for the better of someone else. One day I hope that my children can look at me and see every quality that I have mentioned, and some that I lack to mention inside of me. I hope they would be able to look at me see that I was every woman that I had to be with a smile on my face, and on day they could fall into footsteps and do the same with their lives. The ambitions that I have right now influence my image of a real woman because that is everything that I hope to be. Those characteristic have been instilled in my family for many generations and continue through me. As I see my mother, aunt, and grandmother as strong women handling their business to take of not only their immediate family, but also opening doors for others in need, I hope to do the same someday when I venture out on my own into the world.
Is a man a real man without a strong woman by his side? As we go through life desiring partnership, what is it that drives us to attraction? Many women feel they want a real "mans-man", one who either did all the things her father did, or does everything her father didn't. Many men desire, a lady. Someone who can cook like their mothers but join them amongst their companions. A real man to me is one I can trust. Someone who can listen to the words I say, and admire my actions. A man who stands up for what he thinks is right, and who walks on traffic side of the street. As Austin said, it is a man that takes care of his family no matter the situation. A real man is compassionate about his beliefs and he never fears showing this compassion. A real man, deserves a woman of equal caliber to stand by his side. A woman that can offer words of kind advice and wisdom, but is never afraid to stand up to any gender and tell her thoughts. A woman that puts her family first, and like others before me said is a nurse when needed, a teacher, a dictator, and a peacemaker. A woman must wear many hats but not be afraid to step into a real mans shoes. Both genders share the need of fulfillment. Both feel that they must live up to expectations both internally through self-view and family pressure as well as externally through societies view of perfection. A man or a woman is strong when they can realize their faults and progress to be far greater than any expectation.
A real woman is a friend to all. She is independent, and is okay with being on her own, not having to rely on a man. A real woman is strong, happy, and elegant. She is ladylike and classy. She is also someone that people seek when they are in a time of need, she will be there for anyone and will help anyone at anytime, with anything. A real woman fights for what she believes in and stands up for herself and others. HAppiness is important to her, for herself and others. It is a simple thing, to separate a real woman from a poser. A poser only seeks attention from men, they are not self-confident and rely on someone else to make them happy or give them what they want/need. A real woman is a good mother, that is always there for her children. She takes up for her children, and does anything for them. She is their protector. A real woman is strong in front of her children during a weak/sad time. She also teaches her children to go after their dreams and never give up, just as she did. A real woman is so many different things and i hope to one day possess myself.
From what I've read so far most everyone depict true men to be honorable, resembling the features of a knight defending the honor of his household, and believing in justice but in reality these men are a rare breed. They have been wiped away by the men filled with greed and corruption. So in order to be a real man it takes a whole lot of effort and ambition. Someone doesn't become a man over night. It takes immense amounts of work and dedication to become somebody who is willing to make a difference but to do that you have to make the difference within you. Other's opinions create the part of the perspective you embrace in the world, the other half is based on your personality. If you act like a poser and other people see you as a poser, basically you're a poser. But a man is someone who makes an impression, an impact on society. A man who brightens the day of a depressed person is every of a man who donates millions to a charity. Children want a father figure who will guide them in this world, only if he can guide himself. Some say that becoming a father of children constitutes as being a man. The responsibility of a pure baby is the greatest test of any man, to see if he is worthy of being a man by imprinting his values onto another. Creating a legacy for the world to see. But as we know all humans are flawed by our ambitions which are the things in life that create your personality. Ambitions control your choices and from these choices you build a character. Thus where you are as a man. But eventually having a family and kids always seems to take a priority to ambitions. That moment when you are ready to give up everything for something real, a life greater than the life you once owned, is the moment when a boy becomes a man. That I believe is a true man worthy of having a child, worthy of making a family, and worthy of his title.
To be a real man or a real woman is all a matter of perception. What I think is the ideal image of a woman may be completely different from any other person because of my culture and how I was raised by my family. However, in my opinion, an ideal woman is someone who is confident and selfless. She should feel comfortable in her own skin and know who she is and who she wants to be. I think a real woman is confident in her morals and stands by them, because she knows that they are right for her no matter what others may say to her. She is a leader and always sets an example to those around her. She is selfless; always putting others needs before her own and doing all she can for someone. When I write this I can’t help but think of my mom. She is a prime example to me of what a real woman is and should be. I have been blessed to grow up in such an affectionate and stable household and I know none of it would be possible without my mom. She is the rock to our home and keeps everything in line. Although I am still growing and have so much to learn, I like to think of myself as a good person and that is mostly because of my mom. She has told me from day one that other people’s feelings are the most important things to consider in my actions and my words. Along with being a kind person, she has taught me to be confident and not be afraid to stand up for myself and what I believe in. She has always told me that I better get my own job and have my own money because there’s no better feeling than earning it and being able to call it your own. She reminds me every day that I should be thankful for the wonderful life I have been given and that there is always someone out there who doesn’t have it as good as I do. Whenever my friends and I start gossiping about someone (yes we gossip, we are teenage girls) I always hear my mom in the back of my mind saying “you don’t know what made that person the way they are, you don’t go home with them every day and go through what they have been through” and that right there is what I think makes a real woman. Always considering others perspective on life and not judging them until you have met them and can fully understand why they do what they do. I can only hope that my children will one day see in me what I see in my mom.
To be a woman means to be kind and sensitive, that is one of the biggest differences between men and women. To be a real woman it means she needs to be a good role model by doing the right thing; a poser woman is just a female who thinks a woman’s job is to stand around and be pretty. A real woman has moral, which they will hold up even in complicated situations; a real woman will not forget or change her beliefs and morals for anyone- especially any man. When I truly become a woman, I want my mother (whose opinion I respect the most) to be proud of what she helped create. Her opinion, as well as other people’s opinions I care about, will mean a great deal to me because I would want them to see me as a true woman; they will show me respect because they think that is what a woman deserves. I would want my children to see me as a Woman and believe that I am the definition of a true woman as I do towards my mother. I want my children to think a true woman is someone who is not afraid to be herself as well as someone who cares about other people. A true woman has goals and the ambition to achieve those goals. Ambition is a quality needed to be a Woman. Without ambition Womanhood cannot be achieved. An ambitionless female is not a Woman, just an older girl who stands around waiting for Womanhood to be bestowed on her, and that is not how you become a Woman. It take ambition to become a Woman.
I think that it takes a lot to be considered a "real" woman. From my personal experiences, I think it takes a great deal of courage, in that a real woman will stand up not only for what she believes in, but also for those who cannot stand up for themselves. Also, I believe that generosity and genuine kindness are attributes of a "real" woman. Real women are comfortable in their own sense of self, and are able to hold their own in tough times. Should I have children someday, I would hope that I would instill in them the same ideals of a real woman through my actions that my mother did with me. She is the strongest person I know, in that she has not only cared for my sister and I, but also her own sick parents and grandparents, as well as anyone else who is in need. My mother is a real woman and if I have children someday I hope they grow to be like her. Ambition is tricky. I think a real woman can be ambitious with her career, but I also think that should anyone (not only a woman) become too ambitious, it could compromise their morals, and therefore, would not be a "real" woman. For example, if a woman is so involved in progressing in her career and neglects her family by working late nights, she may not be considered a "real" woman. However, with that same example, say this woman is a single parent who is the only source of income for her children, her late nights are crucial to the survival of her family, and thus this would make me consider this woman a "real" woman. It is not fair for me to judge someone a "real" woman or not because I am unaware of their unique situation, but I know that people will judge if I am a real woman or not. However, I can not waste my time worrying if they are convinced that I am a real woman, because I have to worry about doing the best I can for myself and my family. Thus, if my family is okay with me, then that is good enough for me. P.S. Sorry it's so late! ):
This is kind of my thoughts on being a “real man” means. To me being a real man is all about be happy and honest with yourself. I have seen so many people that will act one way towards someone, then turn around, and act the exact opposite way towards someone else. To be a real man you can’t change yourself to try, to be who other people want you to be. Once you’re comfortable with who you are, then you’ll starting treating others with the respect and they deserve. I think that generally the stereotype of a real man is has been someone who is strong and heroic. I don’t necessarily agree with that because some people aren’t naturally born with those qualities. I don’t think that it makes a someone less of a man if they are meek and weak as opposed to large and imposing. Like what Austin said, it doesn’t make if a man’s actions are good or bad as long as he has accountability for them. I guess in summary, a real man should true to himself and true to others. It doesn’t matter what a man is capable of, it only matters that he doesn’t do more that he is capable. So to me a real man knows his place and knows himself. Sorry if this doesn’t make sense, I thought it would be better to write in a stream of consciousness since a thought out response is hard for this topic. Also most of the people here mentioned something about families, and I can’t really relate to that since I’m not married nor do I have kids.
Sorry about this being late. I didn’t have internet access for a couple of days.
26 comments:
A real man is a male that will step up to the plate and pay his child support and take full responsibility for his actions. Men are suppose to be gentlemen and treat women with respect instead of always just looking to have sex with a woman not knowing the consequences that lay ahead. I feel that the man should be at the head of the house, the one bringing home the majority of the income, and know how to manage time with the family and the boys. The women do all the cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids, and all the other errands so really the women aren't asking for too much. The men should also be better communicators and if they can't communicate with their spouse quite well counseling is not a bad option. Men have to be able to tell the women what's on their mind but also have to know how to deal with the women when they start expressing their emotions and feelings. I know no women wants a bum who does nothing but develop a beer gut, hang out with the boys all the time, and watches sports 24/7. Women want men who are going to look beyond sex appeal; they want a man whose going to be there through the good and bad. A relationship thats going to last, women don't want no players and pimps, they want a man that is the total package. If a man looks handsome, has a college education, a stable job, no kids from previous marriage or from messing around he can expect to find himself a good woman and they woman can expect to find a man worthy enough to be called her husband.
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From the outside, an unsung hero. From the one who knows him best, the world. Selflessness without any thought of reward. Why does he do what he does? He doesn’t have to, true, but he has learned that what and who you love is not always easy. In fact, he knows that it shouldn’t be easy, and if it is always a dream come true, something isn’t right. He has figured out that the one who matters most to him is right beside him. But he has also realized that the most important thing to his life is something untouchable, and only accessible through Faith: his Creator. What else could he ask for? He has found what he loves to do in life and pursued it to the fullest. He has also put all the praise on Him throughout his career. Word: a thing that he lives by, in more than one sense. Sure he lives by his word and it is something that has come from years of discipline, but he also lives by His Word, and that too has come from many years of discipline and failed attempts. The difference between these two is that ultimately the second one holds key to his life and who He wants him to be. Fail at the first one, and you can regain that respect many times with many people. Fail at the second one, and you also can gain back the love and respect, but you only have your lifetime to realize that it’s not a joke, and it’s the difference of eternity. He knows his opinion, he knows why he holds that opinion, and he won’t easily be shaken from this opinion. This same principle also holds in his Faith. He knows who he is, no questions asked. No one messes with the four things that he loves most, three of which he created. He has learned what responsibility is, he has also taught it, with great effects. In a certain opinion he is a fortress where those four things can take refuge. And in many ways this is identical to how He is a Concrete Foundation, however He is not a Fortress for just four things, but millions. Including this man. This is where he finds his refuge and strength. Without that Fortress, he cannot mimic and base his own fortress. He knows very well that it is the little things in life that hold the most significance. The things that are unnoticeable, and remain unnoticeable. He knows he could bring them up to be noticed, but what would that do? Give him credit, yeah. But why does he need it. He already has everything he wants and needs. He is strong, and he also has muscles. He is wise, but he also went to college. He is not dumb, but he can’t create software for microsoft. He is a man, he is who He wants and planned for him to be.
Where are the rest of you A-days? Are you waiting for Glee to end?
A man is well-balanced in all areas of life, and knows thed true meaning of sacrifice. Teaches his kids what is wrong and what is right depending on the situation or circumstances. He upholds strong morals and beliefs but is not shallow minded a out different viewpoints. A man can possibly be seduced, but easily fooled when his manhood is on the line. A man doesn't live by how others , but do take others into consideration. He loves his hobbies , but they are not what drive his life, he knows when to say no and is not a victim if peer pressure,because peer pressued is such a shameful adolescent. A man knows how to ha ve fun and incorporate everyone around him into his enjoyment. A man knows how to handle business not jusf effectiveliy but professionally.
A woman can be many things- a mother, a wife, a daughter, a child, loved; on the other hand she can also be single, no children, unloved, or any combination. However, what makes a woman, not a girl or a poser, is her ability to be what is demanded of her. When a child is sick, that mother is a nurse. When a friend is hurting, a woman is there for them. In regards to ambition, a woman is someone who can put aside her own wants and needs for someone else. In my own personal experience, a woman sacrifices her own health and well-being for that of her child and asks for nothing else in return. She is silent, but it is through her love, adoration, and commitment that I learned what it meant to be a true woman. I can only hope that my children will one day look to me and see the same qualities, and speak about me the same way.
A woman is someone who holds the qualities of a caretaker, a leader, and a respectable person. A real woman will always put someone else above herself and will never take anything for granted. She will always be truthful and trustworthy, and someone for others to depend on. Respect is something that is earned, and holding these traits is how a woman earns respect from others. A real woman will go out of her way to ensure that she holds these traits, because earning respect of others will always be important to her. A woman will always be a leader for her children and will be the best person she can be for them, no matter what. Ambition drives real women to be this way, because they strive for excellence and are determined to fit all of these characteristics. A real woman will always want to be looked up to and liked, which is why they will always hold these qualities and be the best they can be.
“Real” women can be hard to find in our society today. A real woman is someone who is compassionate, caring, loyal, and faithful. Real women don’t follow in someone else’s footsteps, but creates their own. She doesn’t back down from challenges, but tackles them head-on and to the best of her ability. Instead of blaming others, she accepts the blame for her own mistakes and learns from them. A real woman creates morals that she lives by and respects, not caving in to any temptations surrounding her. Too many women in this world today rely on their significant other for complete support, but I think women should be able to stand on their own two feet, most of the times, because they are of no lesser value than men. It is essential to take responsibility for your own actions, whether it be preparing for a test, or taking care of your children. If the woman is married, she should respect her husband and help their relationship grow. When I’m older, I hope my children will see these qualities in me, and use that to teach their children how to be “real” women.
To be a man means to be many things. It doesn’t mean to have lots of money and be someone that the women like. Physical characteristics may make you look older but mental characteristics make someone a man. A man is someone that defines himself not by his social status but by his actions. Those actions have to be ones not of things trying to improve his status but of how he reacts to issues of importance. A real man cares for his family and friends. He works in order to support himself and his family. He may or may not have a lot of money but if he does he doesn’t show it in front of others. A real man doesn’t use women for sex but finds a life partner with one. He not only respects his significant other but also his mother and any other woman that he comes to contact with. A real man deals respect the way he would like to receive it. He sets examples for his children to become better people and if he has one or multiple sons, he shows and guides them in the right direction of becoming a real man. He is loyal and honest while being able to be relaxed. A real man values things that have no numerical value. Real men are respected by others and that respect is earned from them. Real men can be strong and though on the outside but have feelings inside that they value. A real man doesn’t believe that men can’t cry, he is the one that cries when he has the feelings that he believes are necessary to cry.
I will be the one secure enough to describe the opposite gender.
A real woman is someone who takes care of the family and keeps them together. Women are natural caregivers, it is their maternal instinct to do so. Women are generally more understanding and easier to deal with. A real woman is not afraid to admit that she is wrong because she doesn't want to be right, she just wants what's best for everyone else. I do not, nor will I ever know what it is like to be a woman and I am thankful for that because being a real woman is 10 times harder than being a real man. Real women are not appreciated enough so us men have lowered our standards as to what a real woman is. I personally will be marrying the realest woman out there. So, to all of you girls who want to become real women. Be kind, caring, and honest. You shall go far.
What is a man from a woman's point of view? What does a woman want in a man? A man is someone that is resolute and focused on his future. He is someone who listens to a woman's feelings and can always give advice. He is someone who is respectful towards us and thinks of others before himself. A man should never degrade us; for women and men are all the same. We experience life and the world together; so why put us down? A man should also lead an example for the future generation. When he has kids, the kids should be able to look up to him like a super hero. He should have confidence in himself and not give up after any failed attempts. And yes, a real man would take full responsibility for any consequences that occur. If he tries something new, he should not quit if situations are too difficult to continue. He should finish what he starts by the ambition he possesses. Additionally, women want love and romance from them. Some men don’t seem to understand that. Being a gentleman is rarely seen in this day in age, but that is what women are looking for. What happened to the knights in shining armor? The chivalrous cavaliers that rescued fair maidens? Women want to be rescued from reality; they want a strong figure to keep them steady. Someone to trust, someone they know that won’t judge them for who they are.
In my opinion, there is a major difference in being a woman and a real woman. A real woman is someone who is strong enough to stand up for something she wants, but humble enough to help others in need. A real woman can admit when she is wrong even if it kills her. A woman should not be completely dependent on a man. She should be able to provide for herself without having to rely on what a man does. Yes, having a man by her side is a great thing, but when he is not a real man, as mentioned above, and leaves her, she should be able to continue on without him. A real woman is not catty. She is solid in her thought and won’t gossip. She will leave that to the girls.
In the view of those who’s opinion matters, a woman should be viewed as caring, a provider, and selfless. They may not want to, but they will do work for others without expecting anything in return. In most cases they work without receiving even a “thank you”. To children, she would be a mother. Someone who they can always go to, and trust that even if they may not like what she has to say, she has the best for them in mind. Someone who would take the blame if need be.
Ambition frequently clouds the idea of what a real woman should be. When faced with all of the supermodels and actresses, some girls want to be just like them. However, for most of those girls, beauty is only skin deep. A woman should be respected not only for her looks, but for who she is. She should be viewed as someone who is something other than a shallow corps of a person. She should be able to set her own ambitions aside, for the betterment of her family, or others. I honestly hope that one day I can grow up to be half the woman my mother is, because to me, she is the ideal image for a real woman.
A real woman is someone who can be going through the roughest of times, yet she still maintains grace, elegance and strength through it all. A real woman is someone who knows when to care for someone when they need it, and to love a person like her Creator has loved her. She knows when to fight for what she believes in, but does it in a manner that is nothing less than classy. She never lets the smallest things ruin her and she gains strength at her weakest moments. A real woman is one who knows full and well that she doesn't need a man to give her confidence or self worth and knows the real meaning of beauty has nothing to do with looks. To the opinions of those who matter, women need to be like this so that they can set an example for the generations to come because society has killed the real meaning of a woman. A real woman is not someone whose only place is behind her husband, and that their beauty only matters on outward adornment. If I ever have children, and one of them is a girl, I would never want them to feel like being beautiful is just on the outside and that she has to spend the rest of her life after her wedding day being in the shadow of a man. We as women are far more than that. I come from a family of great, fearless and strong women, but none compare, in my opinion, to my own mother. She's raised me to believe that I am more than what society has told me I should be, and that I am beautiful no matter what people say. She's cared for me like a nurse when I was sick, or a counselor when I needed someone to talk to. She stood up for me like any mother should, but she did it respectfully and with class. Just recently, my mother has taught me who a real woman is when they face hard times. The man she was married to for thirty years left her, and she had every right to be weak and only care for herself, but she remained strong. She nurtured and comforted her two children as we had to face this too, and she kept her composer and had faith through it all. She lived life without a man before she married my father, and she knows full and well that she can go on in life without a man again. She could've easily given up on everything, but instead she kept moving on. My mother is a living example of a real woman, and she inspires me more than words can even describe. I strive to be a real woman like her one day, and to raise my daughters, granddaughters, and great granddaughters to be real women as well.
The idealistic image of what a real man is, is one that has been created by the current society. "Real" men are those whom follow the few, heroic like characteristics that to the observer, fills that manly silhouette. This task seems quite easy, but these characteristics are hard to achieve. When describing a real man, the shadow of a masculine figure with big muscles, courage, and a hardwired unwilling preparedness to control the situation when times turn dull comes to mind. Todays perception of a real man is vastly different for each individual, thanks to the different ways we are taught, but what is a real man to me? A real man should rise above the situation, conquer it, and still save the herion in distress. "Real" men reflect the perfect human, something that rarely exists in todays world. This type of man is the one everyone trusts, loves, and looks up to. His only intentions are for good and the advancement of others. This guy is what every other man wants to be. This "real" man is seen only in stories, comic books, and with rare examples in the past. The title of a real man in my opinion, is one very hard to truly receive. Many try to claim being one, but until they display the acts of a real man, they are not one. The hardest part for a men to achieve this postion is fighting their own wants and needs. Real men do not think about themselves, but instead those whom they can help. Their decision making is perfect because it must be. If not, when the time comes the "real" man shell cracks to pieces revealing the wimpy want to be man, deep inside. Not all men have the ability to be a real man, but some do. These abilities must be searched for, found, then perfected to be modeled into a true man. Then can you claim this high role, as the real man you have become.
You who have paid tribute to your mothers and fathers should show them your comments. They're like teachers, only more so. They don't require your gratitude to love you, but they really appreciate it when they get it.
A real woman is someone who is hard to describe. As time changes the ideas of what a woman should be like will change too. In Shakespeare’s time a real woman was someone who did nothing but the cooking, cleaning and caretaking. They were expected to stand by their husbands and nothing else. The woman of that time were more of just a figure, they kept to themselves, and rarely spoke their opinions. These real women were considered to be less than a man. As the time went on women spoke for the same rights as men. More than what was ever imagined was accomplished. A real woman will be seen different from the eyes of everyone. But, for me, a real woman is not someone of the typical stereotype, of being considered less than a man. A real woman won’t be talked down upon. A real woman is someone that anyone can rely on. A real woman is someone who people can look up too. When someone is a real woman their opinions will be respected by others. When a person is able to balance between voicing her own opinions and taking in the opinions of others, to me is when they become a woman. People end up either voicing their opinions too much or not enough. It would be nice to think that my children will one day think of women in the same way. That they will look up to me the same way that I look up to my mom now. Hopefully the ideas of what a real woman should be will not change too much, but I am sure that the men during Shakespeare’s time were thing the same thing. Ambition makes me think more of a woman. I see real woman as people who have ambition. The real women strive to do something different. But at the same time they are still aware of their actions. A real woman is someone that I would like to be when I am older.
Like Laine said about a real woman, a "real" man is hard to find in today's world. Today, there are two views, a man is either perfect in every way like someone out of the movies or they are misogynistic, slobbingly, and lazy. Both these views are there for a reason but neither of them are "real" men. I agree with Israel 100%; a real man is someone who takes care of his family no matter what. A real man should be responsible for his actions, good or bad. A real man should not be content to stagnate in mind and body; they should always be trying to better themselves and their family. They should be be fake and a liar; honesty is entirely necessary. Whether it is working out some domestic or workplace issue, a man should always own up to his mistakes and be honest to others.
Others should be able to tell if a male is a man if they are strong-willed and dependable. A man should never be flaky and should do what he says he is going to do when he said he was going to do it. A man should never back down, especially when it comes to defending his family, unless it is entirely reasonable to do so. Others should view a real man as intelligent, not book-smart intelligent, but just with it. They should be able to hold a conversation, even with strangers, just to be polite.
A man should be everything to his children. He should be their protector, their best friend, their discipliner, their mentor. A real man should never abandon his children for any reason. A real man should teach his children what he knows so that they may one day surpass him. He should protect and punish when necessary in order to teach his kids a good moral code. He should also always be there when they need an ear to talk to, no matter the subject.
As I already said, a man should not be content to stagnate and that goes along with ambition. A man with ambition is simply an empty shell, or worse a shell filled with the wrong things. I believe a real man should strive to be better, strive to provide for his family, and strive for them to be better. A real man is what I hope to be someday.
A real woman is a woman that is a daughter, a friend, maybe even a wife or mother. A real woman is a woman that can step up to the plate and be what she is needed to be at that moment. Like Eliza said whether she needs to be the doctor when her child is sick, a friend to someone that is hurting or going through a time of need, or being a dedicated wife and standing by her husband and helping him succeed. In the mist of all those things she still continues to do the things that make her happy with a smile on her face. That may be going out to dinner with friends or just catching that latest movie. That could also be spending quality time with her family. What separates a woman from a poser, or a girl is being able step aside and put away selfish wants for the better of someone else. One day I hope that my children can look at me and see every quality that I have mentioned, and some that I lack to mention inside of me. I hope they would be able to look at me see that I was every woman that I had to be with a smile on my face, and on day they could fall into footsteps and do the same with their lives. The ambitions that I have right now influence my image of a real woman because that is everything that I hope to be. Those characteristic have been instilled in my family for many generations and continue through me. As I see my mother, aunt, and grandmother as strong women handling their business to take of not only their immediate family, but also opening doors for others in need, I hope to do the same someday when I venture out on my own into the world.
Is a man a real man without a strong woman by his side? As we go through life desiring partnership, what is it that drives us to attraction? Many women feel they want a real "mans-man", one who either did all the things her father did, or does everything her father didn't. Many men desire, a lady. Someone who can cook like their mothers but join them amongst their companions. A real man to me is one I can trust. Someone who can listen to the words I say, and admire my actions. A man who stands up for what he thinks is right, and who walks on traffic side of the street. As Austin said, it is a man that takes care of his family no matter the situation. A real man is compassionate about his beliefs and he never fears showing this compassion. A real man, deserves a woman of equal caliber to stand by his side. A woman that can offer words of kind advice and wisdom, but is never afraid to stand up to any gender and tell her thoughts. A woman that puts her family first, and like others before me said is a nurse when needed, a teacher, a dictator, and a peacemaker. A woman must wear many hats but not be afraid to step into a real mans shoes.
Both genders share the need of fulfillment. Both feel that they must live up to expectations both internally through self-view and family pressure as well as externally through societies view of perfection. A man or a woman is strong when they can realize their faults and progress to be far greater than any expectation.
A real woman is a friend to all. She is independent, and is okay with being on her own, not having to rely on a man. A real woman is strong, happy, and elegant. She is ladylike and classy. She is also someone that people seek when they are in a time of need, she will be there for anyone and will help anyone at anytime, with anything. A real woman fights for what she believes in and stands up for herself and others. HAppiness is important to her, for herself and others. It is a simple thing, to separate a real woman from a poser. A poser only seeks attention from men, they are not self-confident and rely on someone else to make them happy or give them what they want/need. A real woman is a good mother, that is always there for her children. She takes up for her children, and does anything for them. She is their protector. A real woman is strong in front of her children during a weak/sad time. She also teaches her children to go after their dreams and never give up, just as she did. A real woman is so many different things and i hope to one day possess myself.
From what I've read so far most everyone depict true men to be honorable, resembling the features of a knight defending the honor of his household, and believing in justice but in reality these men are a rare breed. They have been wiped away by the men filled with greed and corruption. So in order to be a real man it takes a whole lot of effort and ambition. Someone doesn't become a man over night. It takes immense amounts of work and dedication to become somebody who is willing to make a difference but to do that you have to make the difference within you. Other's opinions create the part of the perspective you embrace in the world, the other half is based on your personality. If you act like a poser and other people see you as a poser, basically you're a poser. But a man is someone who makes an impression, an impact on society. A man who brightens the day of a depressed person is every of a man who donates millions to a charity. Children want a father figure who will guide them in this world, only if he can guide himself. Some say that becoming a father of children constitutes as being a man. The responsibility of a pure baby is the greatest test of any man, to see if he is worthy of being a man by imprinting his values onto another. Creating a legacy for the world to see. But as we know all humans are flawed by our ambitions which are the things in life that create your personality. Ambitions control your choices and from these choices you build a character. Thus where you are as a man. But eventually having a family and kids always seems to take a priority to ambitions. That moment when you are ready to give up everything for something real, a life greater than the life you once owned, is the moment when a boy becomes a man. That I believe is a true man worthy of having a child, worthy of making a family, and worthy of his title.
To be a real man or a real woman is all a matter of perception. What I think is the ideal image of a woman may be completely different from any other person because of my culture and how I was raised by my family. However, in my opinion, an ideal woman is someone who is confident and selfless. She should feel comfortable in her own skin and know who she is and who she wants to be. I think a real woman is confident in her morals and stands by them, because she knows that they are right for her no matter what others may say to her. She is a leader and always sets an example to those around her. She is selfless; always putting others needs before her own and doing all she can for someone. When I write this I can’t help but think of my mom. She is a prime example to me of what a real woman is and should be. I have been blessed to grow up in such an affectionate and stable household and I know none of it would be possible without my mom. She is the rock to our home and keeps everything in line. Although I am still growing and have so much to learn, I like to think of myself as a good person and that is mostly because of my mom. She has told me from day one that other people’s feelings are the most important things to consider in my actions and my words. Along with being a kind person, she has taught me to be confident and not be afraid to stand up for myself and what I believe in. She has always told me that I better get my own job and have my own money because there’s no better feeling than earning it and being able to call it your own. She reminds me every day that I should be thankful for the wonderful life I have been given and that there is always someone out there who doesn’t have it as good as I do. Whenever my friends and I start gossiping about someone (yes we gossip, we are teenage girls) I always hear my mom in the back of my mind saying “you don’t know what made that person the way they are, you don’t go home with them every day and go through what they have been through” and that right there is what I think makes a real woman. Always considering others perspective on life and not judging them until you have met them and can fully understand why they do what they do. I can only hope that my children will one day see in me what I see in my mom.
To be a woman means to be kind and sensitive, that is one of the biggest differences between men and women. To be a real woman it means she needs to be a good role model by doing the right thing; a poser woman is just a female who thinks a woman’s job is to stand around and be pretty. A real woman has moral, which they will hold up even in complicated situations; a real woman will not forget or change her beliefs and morals for anyone- especially any man. When I truly become a woman, I want my mother (whose opinion I respect the most) to be proud of what she helped create. Her opinion, as well as other people’s opinions I care about, will mean a great deal to me because I would want them to see me as a true woman; they will show me respect because they think that is what a woman deserves. I would want my children to see me as a Woman and believe that I am the definition of a true woman as I do towards my mother. I want my children to think a true woman is someone who is not afraid to be herself as well as someone who cares about other people. A true woman has goals and the ambition to achieve those goals. Ambition is a quality needed to be a Woman. Without ambition Womanhood cannot be achieved. An ambitionless female is not a Woman, just an older girl who stands around waiting for Womanhood to be bestowed on her, and that is not how you become a Woman. It take ambition to become a Woman.
I think that it takes a lot to be considered a "real" woman. From my personal experiences, I think it takes a great deal of courage, in that a real woman will stand up not only for what she believes in, but also for those who cannot stand up for themselves. Also, I believe that generosity and genuine kindness are attributes of a "real" woman. Real women are comfortable in their own sense of self, and are able to hold their own in tough times.
Should I have children someday, I would hope that I would instill in them the same ideals of a real woman through my actions that my mother did with me. She is the strongest person I know, in that she has not only cared for my sister and I, but also her own sick parents and grandparents, as well as anyone else who is in need. My mother is a real woman and if I have children someday I hope they grow to be like her.
Ambition is tricky. I think a real woman can be ambitious with her career, but I also think that should anyone (not only a woman) become too ambitious, it could compromise their morals, and therefore, would not be a "real" woman. For example, if a woman is so involved in progressing in her career and neglects her family by working late nights, she may not be considered a "real" woman. However, with that same example, say this woman is a single parent who is the only source of income for her children, her late nights are crucial to the survival of her family, and thus this would make me consider this woman a "real" woman.
It is not fair for me to judge someone a "real" woman or not because I am unaware of their unique situation, but I know that people will judge if I am a real woman or not. However, I can not waste my time worrying if they are convinced that I am a real woman, because I have to worry about doing the best I can for myself and my family. Thus, if my family is okay with me, then that is good enough for me.
P.S. Sorry it's so late! ):
This is kind of my thoughts on being a “real man” means. To me being a real man is all about be happy and honest with yourself. I have seen so many people that will act one way towards someone, then turn around, and act the exact opposite way towards someone else. To be a real man you can’t change yourself to try, to be who other people want you to be. Once you’re comfortable with who you are, then you’ll starting treating others with the respect and they deserve. I think that generally the stereotype of a real man is has been someone who is strong and heroic. I don’t necessarily agree with that because some people aren’t naturally born with those qualities. I don’t think that it makes a someone less of a man if they are meek and weak as opposed to large and imposing. Like what Austin said, it doesn’t make if a man’s actions are good or bad as long as he has accountability for them. I guess in summary, a real man should true to himself and true to others. It doesn’t matter what a man is capable of, it only matters that he doesn’t do more that he is capable. So to me a real man knows his place and knows himself. Sorry if this doesn’t make sense, I thought it would be better to write in a stream of consciousness since a thought out response is hard for this topic. Also most of the people here mentioned something about families, and I can’t really relate to that since I’m not married nor do I have kids.
Sorry about this being late. I didn’t have internet access for a couple of days.
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